Decode the Why so You Can See the Behavior Crystal Clear!
Are you one of those people who has some internal drive to and need to understand Why people do the things they do?
Maybe you are studying behavior in the pursuit of developing yourself professionally?
Maybe you have are very good on the social side of life and want to change the way you have relations with other people?
Or maybe, you are one of those people who has a family member or other loved one who doesn't take good care of themself and is always struggling in life, but regardless of how many times you try to help them, it never seems to stick?
Would you like to know why?
Would you like to know why some people in the world seemingly get to live life whatever way they choose, especially the ones who don't seem to have to accept the consequences of their actions?
Would you like to know some people seem to be experts on the social side of life and have an abundance of relationships?
Would you like to know why that one family member seems to be unable or unwilling to get their life together?
For just a moment...
Imagine this...
Imagine what your life would be like if you could automatically see the Why of any Behavior.
- What do your daily life experiences look life?
- What kind of people would you be interacting and have relationships with if you could choose?
- What work would you be doing and how well would you perform at doing it?
And now, consider those things from a specific perspective.
Why did you do that?
Is a question that I'm certain you've been asked at least once in your life. I obsessively asked it to myself for the 1st 30 years of my life, a habit that I picked up during my formative years as my behaviors and motivations were constantly being questioned. And I KNOW it wasn't only me.
Why are some people very difficult as children? Is it something inside of them? Or outside? Maybe it's both?
Are you one of those people who grew up confused? Having your behaviors constantly being questioned while looking at those questioning them like,
"Excuse you? Have you looked at your own behavior? Who are you to be questioning mine?"
Well let's just say that most people consider certain people to be family because you're related, but if they've never felt like family, it can cause incredible strain on the relationship between you and them.
Many people who grow up in confusion decide to make the only choice they can which is to trust their own instincts. They choose to trust what they feel and see within themselves.
And sometimes it leads a person to making the choice to get out into the world on their own so that they can decode everything the world was trying to teach them, but through their own perspective.
And figure out why some people can't figure out how to communicate with the folks they are "supposed to" love.
Which is a phenomenon that I have sadly observed being very common which is why I have written this book!
I don't want you to be one of those people who has to wait until you're in your 30s, 40s, or 50s, to finally be able to communicate with your family and finally be able to have a real connection with them!
How would you like to be able to get over your family struggles 30 days from now rather than it taking years because you can barely be in the same room as each other and when you do manage to, hardly anything gets communicated?
Maybe you don't have family struggles and are looking to interact better with colleagues or want to see how to get the attention of a romantic interest.
Maybe you want to improve your professional interactions.
Or maybe you are a student of behavior like I am!
This book can help you with that! Consider it to be your Personal Behavior Decoder!
Being able to instantly decode the behaviors of other people will transform your ability to interact with them!
Here is an Outline the Book's Contents:
Part I: Intrinsic Motivational Factors
Chapter 1: The Nature of Being Human
Chapter 2: The Cognitive Machinery
Chapter 3: Where does it Begin?
Chapter 4: The Power of Emotions
Part II: Extrinsic Motivational Factors
Chapter 5: The Influence of Social Factors
Chapter 6: The Complexity of Relationships
Chapter 7: The Influence of Environment
Chapter 8: Ethics and Morality
Part III: Intentionally Behave
Chapter 9: Decision Making
Chapter 10: Resilience and Adaptability
Chapter 11: Difficult Truths
Chapter 12: Personal Growth and Self-Actualization
Chapter 13: Techniques to Change Behavior
Here Are 3 Very Common Whys!
1. People who are highly judgmental are very angry people. Anger clouds perception and needs to be expressed, but the expression of anger without respect or discipline often gets aggressive and we're not supposed to hurt people, right? So they instead internalize that anger, holding it within themself and over time, it corrupts their perception of people's choices. They're not allowed to express their anger like they want to so why do other people get to?
2. Changed behavior is the only real apology. Saying "Sorry" is simply a way to show respect. If they keep doing the behavior, then they’re not sorry for the behavior. They're sorry for you responding negatively to it which is something they have no control over which is why they shouldn't be sorry for it. What they should be sorry for is using that show of respect, their apology, but not actually backing it up with real respect, a change in their behavior.
3. Self-Awareness is gained through Self Exploration and is a must because you can only see as far outside of yourself as you have looked deep within.
Hi! I'm Mitchell!
For over 12 years I have been studying Behavioral Science. Not through a university, but through experience!
Through living the behaviors myself, interacting with those who live that way, and creating my own personal library of education materials so that I could Decode the Why by experiencing the why myself and watching other people's whys.
Maybe you know the name, Tony Robbins. He is 1 of my self chosen teachers and mentors.
I utilized the Power of Observation and a skill I learned from my father, People Watching.
Simply by watching people and observing what they do, you will see for yourself......why?
When you don't interact at all or interact intentionally to gauge a response, you should always let people do what they want to and give them the space to do it because that is how you see what they naturally choose to do.
Not to please anyone or to get anything.
But the natural behaviors that originate in and arise out of them based off of their inner nature and experiential conditioning.
A really kool social practice that is happening more and more these days is realizing that while someone may not have a degree and may not have a license or any kind paper credentials, that's OK. Because we are collectively coming to the conclusion that those credentials don't actually merit experience or understanding of the topic.
We are realizing that you have to actually look at where those things come from. What the specific content that person's putting out is, where it's coming from, and how competent of a human they are and where they learned from.
Has this person practiced and experienced what they teach? Did they actually learn from their teachings or are they reciting the lessons from memory? How do they respond when you challenge their wisdom?
I remember back to a time when I was in middle school and then high school and in both schools, I was preached to about how important it is to learn to write in cursive because college is going to demand that you do so.
And especially if you want to go into business, business folks need to know that you're competent right?
Well, I dropped out of the Community College that I went to and in the little bit of time that I spent there, the professors they didn't want cursive. They wanted us to write in print.
And now I've entered into the business world as an entrepreneur of my own right and in doing so, one thing that I found out about business folks is that not only are they not impressed by you being able to write in cursive, but they actually want you to write in print because it is easier to read which means that it costs them less time and energy.
And business folks understand that those are the most precious commodities.
They don't want to waste time or energy on trying to figure out how to read your illegible cursive which means that all those times that I was preached to by my teachers and the other adults around on how important cursive is, it was just an outright lie.
I saw it was one of many little outright lies that help lots of people to understand that teachers and adults are also just people who are still trying to figure it out.
Because they're not actually lying, they just don't know any better.
Fortunately for some, like yourself, they decide to trust themselves more than the adults around who are in charge, especially the ones who are supposed to be professionals at teaching other people. They are sometimes unable to see how a human needed to learn and they're job is just to teach the general basics.
And so rather than waiting for them to figure out how to teach you and what the right things to teach you are, you chose to take it upon yourself and decided to seek out your own knowledge. Your own education.
Me Too!!
I understood that school was not for me. Sitting in the classroom being lectured is not the way that I learn and so as I became an adult myself, I ventured out into the self-education industry.
I began to seek out the people that I believed could teach me the things that I knew I needed to learn, in the way that I knew I needed to learn them, and from the perspective that I needed to learn them from.
What do you think about learning from someone who has chosen as their teachers and mentors such people as:
Mel Robbins, Simon, Sinek, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vanessa Van Edwards, Rachel Miller, Tony Robbins, Dean Graziosi, Brendon Burchard, Marni Kinrys, Bobby Rio, Taylor Swift, Selena Gomez, Ryan Reynolds, Will Smith, Dwayne Johnson, Steve Harvey, Joe Rogan, Jason Capital, Grant Cardone, Sabastian Enges, Luke Belmar, Brad Lea, Peter Voogd……?
And those are just some the big names of people that have made a name and reputation for themselves.
I once met a guy while working the Drive-Thru at Wendy's, he's a brother to me now, who served in the US Army for 12 years as a cook in an Airbourne Unit that was attached to a Special Forces Group. And now he's a 20+ year career Chef that has worked in more styles of kitchens that I even knew existed. (Including fastfood, Wendy's, just to add a fastfood kitchen to the list!)
And that's not counting the countless number of people that I have met during my journey of life. I pick up things from literally everybody that I meet, even if it's just for a moment of time.
You can learn anything, from anybody, at anytime.
When somebody says something to you that is true, it doesn't matter who they are or if they even believe it to be true. It is still true. And it the same for false things.
I started my study and practice of Behavioral Science when I was 19 and had left the unhealthy environment I started in. I started with basic social skills. I then left out into the world on my own, existed with no rules, boundaries, or respect.
Living like that led me straight into Crazy Town where I met Substance Exploration and Alcohol Abuse.
Because of a young woman I met along the way and the specific ways I behaved towards her, my subconscious directed me to the US Army for a few years during which time I was in the Army Substance Abuse Program and followed Alcohol Abuse to the threshold of becoming an Alcoholic, but chose to turn around which is where I found Self-Respect.
I then went super active on processing myself through self taught therapy, began building a business from scratch, studying and practicing High Performance Behavior, and well......
Here I am now!
Degree or not, behavioral science is behavioral science. For over 10 years, I have been silently running experiments on decoding the behaviors of people and why they choose their behaviors.
Through this Decoder is how I am sharing the results of my experiments so that you can see if you get the same results.
Get your copy of Decode the Why of any Behavior, record what you decode as why people make their choices, and then share the whys you find with me!
Share the Whys that you decode and help me to keep this Decoder up to date!
Or you can just use it to transform your interactions with people as you will be better able to understand why they make their choices and then adjust yourself accordingly!